Have you ever had someone in your life that was anxious about sharing their things?
They have a lot to share but this makes them anxious and protective over their things. They never achieve their goal because they are too scared of losing things.
There’s a popular quote,
“you can’t have your cake and it eat too”-
it’s either one or the other.
A lot of the times, people can find feeling abundant a real struggle, no matter how much they have.
Although this seems confusing, this is actually not deliberate as this behaviour derives from a deep conflict of important values.
You can have conflicting values such as being pious but also wanting lavish things in life. This is where duality comes in. There are two parts to everything. Just like:
In a similar way, we have two important values that can drive us to two opposing goals.
This conflict causes difficulty when choosing which path to take. Some examples are:
Can you notice the struggle that stops people from truly appreciating themselves, their life or building on what they already have?
It’s possible to bring ease to the struggles we face when we have conflicting values. You just need to shift your focus when you can feel it happening.
Let’s look at a way to deal with the struggle when we find ourselves feeling the conflict between two important values.
|Personal values||Spiritual values|
|Making a difference||Humility|
|Family||Submission to God|
A conflict can suggest that one side must-win for the struggle to end.
Values represent important needs so ignoring one will end up making you anxious and unsettled.
Therefore, it’s crucial to find a way to meet both personal and spiritual values and create balance.